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I love my family like crazy, although we're a bit nutty I think we are more functional than most familes I've met. I like to blog and often am trying to figure out what site is best, so far I've settled on blogger. I love cats and very very well behaved dogs (but there really aren't that many around are there?) Diagnosed with an eating disorder, but I am trying not to let it define me.

Monday, May 14, 2012

lets tip toe and cater to his every wish

She makes excuses for him the way she used to when he was drinking. He can still pull her into his corner even when its the losing one. Its infuriating the way she defends his every action as if he is always in the right (he quit drinking! lets tip toe and cater to his every wish)

The alcohol has been taken out of the equation but their relationship is still exactly the same, albeit less chaotic. But it is still those two against the rest of us. We don't try to include him enough, he doesn't like get togethers, he doesn't want to come...blah blah blah. 

Seriously, when do you stop acting like your grown child is no longer the alcoholic who needs sheltering and start  holding him up to the expectations you have for other people?

I suppose that this is how the dynamic in our family will always be. Mom and the boys on one side and my sister with her and me in another.  I would like things to change but when one side won't even show up for anything at all, well it sure is hard to form a bond or trust with them.

I think that I expect too much from people. I guess 20 years of having a son that you don't think will ever get sober is likely to have any mom treat them with kid gloves when they do actually stop drinking. 

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